The latest studies indicate that what people really want is a mate that has qualities like their parents. Women are after a man who is like their father and man want to be able to see their own mother in the woman of their dreams. Cognitive psychologist David Perrett studies what makes faces attractively. He has developed a computerized morphing system that can endlessly adjust faces to suit his needs. Perret suggests that we find our own faces charming because they remind us of the faces we looked at constantly in our early childhood years ─ Mom and Dad.
I strongly believe that Psy. Perrett's study, people usually prefer the faces which similar to Mom and Dad. For the best example, I do. Whenever, whoever, I met people, especially, women, I tend to be gentle if she has any similarity of my mom. I hope, in the future, my wife is the woman who just likes my mother. It is not meant the appearance. I consider the personality and the way of taking care of her child.
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I completely agree with this. We tend to feel comfortable with what we already know, so when choosing a mate we seek characteristics we are familiar with (i.e those of our parents'). I also read somewhere that we seek mates who can resolve childhood issues. If you have never felt good enough for your mother/father, you pick a mate who has personality traits similar to your father but minus the negative ones.
Where can we find more information on this theory? I cant seem to find anything to back it up.
I did some research, I wasn't able to find anything to do with Perrett on the sites we were linked to, but I googled him and found his home page and a list of publications. It seems he works alot with issues to do with how reproductive and hormonal changes effect psychical characteristics and triggers, and how we percieve these in picking mates etc. It seems darwinian, how we unconsciously notice and interpret psychical signs of reproductive ability. And then, there are other articles on how we percieve what we see and interpret it emotionally and psychologically. It makes me wonder what he thinks when he looks at someone!
I found an article that he wrote on this topic from 1995 at http://en.scientificcommons.org/20990371 called "Facial attractiveness judgements reflect learning of parental age characteristics." which can be downloaded in pdf form.
the abstract says:
"Mate preferences are shaped by infant experience of parental characteristics in a wide variety of species. Similar processes in humans may lead to physical similarity between parents and mates, yet this possibility has received little attention. The age of parents is one salient physical characteristic that offspring may attend to. The current study used computer-graphic faces to examine how preferences for age in faces were influenced by parental age. We found that women born to 'old' parents (over 30) were less impressed by youth, and more attracted to age cues in male faces than women with 'young' parents (under 30). For men, preferences for female faces were influenced by their mother's age and not their father's age, but only for long-term relationships. These data indicate that judgements of facial attractiveness in humans reflect the learning of parental characteristics."
and his site is:
http://www.st-andrews.ac.uk/~www_sp/people/lect/dp.shtml
I like this post to share. In my case I like people who look similar to my parents. Especially when I see the man, I prefer to find similiarity with my father.
my father has a small eyes and tall. Moreover, I like an korean star who has a small eyes and tall , Rain. I really like his face. Maybe his appearance is familiar to me. Human always following the familiar and natrualitic objects. When they see those things, they feel comforable and relax. Their parents's appearance are maybe bring them a comfortable feeling like they are in their childhood.
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